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091 How The Masculine Paradigm Sucks for Real Success with Alaina Schwartz

091 How The Masculine Paradigm Sucks for Real Success with Alaina Schwartz

April 12, 2021

Alaina Schwartz talks about “How The Masculine Paradigm Sucks for Real Success” in this episode of Intuitive Leadership Mastery with host Michaela Light.

Show notes

How Masculine domain energy stops the flow

    • Balance of male and female

      • Yin and Yang
      • All have both
    • In our society high achievers tend of be high maculine dominant
    • Feminism – taught to succeed as male in biz
    • Burn out 
      • Overwhelm
      • Stress
      • Relationship issues
      • Health issues
      • Spiritual lack
    • The Masculine Paradigm of Success
      • Structure 
      • Hustle and single minded focus, no emotions
        • Avoid weak

Create the Success You Want by Moving in Flow 

    • Ego running biz vs high self. Struggle vs flow

      • Not Culturally corporate
    • Your day flow easy
    • True to your own self
    • Self-love, self-valuing
    • Aligned with our purpose → satisfaction

Relationships are key

    • Better negotiations
    • Relationship to self
      • Healthy self talk
      • Look inside to see success
      • Love your Self (higher self not ego self) first, then other others and the planet
      • Goals – Who your are vs what you want
        • Energetic alignment to what we want
        • How does a person who already has achieved this goal behave, talk, how dress etc?
        • Shift your mindset and thoughts and emotions and habits
        • Confidence
        • Visionize the emotion of having achieved this goal, being this new person
        • Habits – addiction to the familiar, fear of unknown
      • Flow and synchronicities
    • Relationship to money
      • Energy current – currency – flow
      • Gratitude
      • Easy making money
      • Easy keeping the money you make
      • Satisfaction of what you make
        • Joy of spending some of the money you make

Creating new future aligned with your true you and true why 

    • Predictable Past way vs new way (unpredictable)
    • Inside vs outside validation
    • Time in Nature and higher level intelligence
    • Outside
      • Advertising

        • Movie “They Live” (video)
    • School
    • Experts
    • Parents beliefs and criticism
      • Childhood theta brainwave state
    • Low news to no news diet
      • Conscious choice of media you consume
    • Conscious choice of people in your biz and life
      • Friends
      • Family
      • Spouse
      • Staff
      • Clients
      • Vendors
      • Avoiding dream stealers 
      • 3 min 3 hour 3 days people
      • Masterminds and mentors
    • Environment – biz clutter

The science of mindset

    • Science has become the language of Mysticism 

      • Dr Joe Dispenza 
      • RAS = Reticular Activating System 
        • Noticing
        • Limiting beliefs 
    • How to Create Wealth, Abundance and Freedom through the power of Your Mind

The Habits that Shift You From Burn-Out to Abundance. 

    • Habits for Flow in Business
    • Rewiring my brains

Who we truly are

    • When we truly strip away the limiting beliefs and patterns that have covered up the truth of who we are (which is love), and cultivate self love, it allows us to be guided by our intuition and move/create in flow states, rather than being in hustle, push, push, push, do, do, do.
090 Entrepreneurial Anxiety, Apathy and Depression (Virtual Meetup), with Melanie Ginsburg and Samantha Alvarez

090 Entrepreneurial Anxiety, Apathy and Depression (Virtual Meetup), with Melanie Ginsburg and Samantha Alvarez

September 16, 2020

Entrepreneurial Anxiety, Apathy and Depression (Virtual Meetup), with Melanie Ginsburg and Samantha Alvarez

"...I will say of depression, not true depression, anxiety, just very unpleasant while I was running my business and had to learn very fast how to swim. So now I'm hoping to teach these lessons. I'm hoping to catch them before the shipwreck, so to speak. But during is also, you know, if I can pull myself out, you can pull yourself out. So wherever you're at right now, know that it will be okay. And you can do it..."

Episode Highlights

Why More now

  • Due to corona worries, lockdown constrictions and economic recession for some businesses. 

    • Everyone is grieving the major changes that are occurring
    • Stages of Grief: DABDA - Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance (not necessarily in that order)
  • See Sam’s article for more details and help on quarantine related mental health issues. In the Resources section at the bottom. From that article:
    • 30% of people in Quarantine become clinically depressed
    • 30% become clinically diagnosable with PTSD (with some overlap of people getting both, of course), 
    • and that these symptoms last at least one month after quarantine.

What is Ideal mental health

  • Ideal mental health

    • Resilient - bounce back from setbacks, 
    • Flexible - fast to pivot
    • Calm, focused
    • Joyful
    • Connected to spirit, intuitive
    • Social. EQ. SQ. (Emotional Intelligence, Spiritual Intelligence)
    • A healthy relationship with self
  • For ideal mental health, the positive attitude should be at a good level, so that the individual feels happy with themselves. 
    • Self-actualization. Self-actualization is being in a state of contentment, feeling that you have become the best you can be. 
    • Autonomy. This is having independence and self-reliance.
  • Connection with nature...outward and inward focus balanced

Barriers

The Creeping Problem

  • Mental illness creeps up on people
  • Distractions hide it
    • Dissociated 
    • In the Matrix = “normal” (desirable) to be busy
  • Not socially acceptable to discuss or admit to it
  • Compare to breaking a leg and getting it fixed vs covering up
    • Pills as temp crutch
    • Hitting leg with hammer daily but not want to be aware of it
  • Notice if isolated -- check-in with self...then make outward connection email call visit zoom (vs. distraction) 

Resistance to Asking for Help

Resistance to recognizing you have a problem and getting help:

  • Mental illness shame - avoid talking about it, afraid what others will think of me
  • An entrepreneur has to be strong for others 
  • (co)-Head of family ditto
  • It’s a feeling, and it is not rational
    • Hard to explain with logic and words
  • Entrepreneurs have bigger financial responsibilities and risk levels
  • Entrepreneurs are outcasts from traditional society already - lack of others to understand us
  • Chronic Workaholism and culture of long hours
    • Hard to break this habit
  • No refuge (home anxiety == work anxiety)
  • Location-independent ones doubly so
    • Distance from deep support systems
    • Lack of groundedness with current community
    • Breadth over depth of support

Anxiety

  • Corona lockdown and economic recession accentuates existing anxiety(s)
  • Anxiety spectrum: Low-grade constant worry → Full on Fear Panic Attacks
  • Obsessive, uncontrollable thoughts 
    • Obsessive behavior. Constant rechecking. Controlling others and things. Perfectionism. 
    • Negative interpretations of what others say.
    • Rampant (negative) imagination
  • Trouble concentrating or thinking about anything other than the present worry
  • Having trouble sleeping
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Brain and body chemistry from past trauma. PTSD.
  • Physical health issues associated with anxiety
    • Heart racing, trouble breathing, Sweating, Trembling, Dry mouth
    • Nausea/loss of appetite/insatiable appetite
    • Tummy pain, poor digestion, diarrhea.
    • Headaches, back pain
    • Diabetes
    • Thyroid problems
    • Depressed immune system
  • Some specify anxiety disorders:
    • Agoraphobia is a type of anxiety disorder in which you fear and often avoid places or situations that might cause you to panic and make you feel trapped, helpless or embarrassed.
    • Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) includes persistent and excessive anxiety and worry about activities or events — even ordinary, routine issues. The worry is out of proportion to the actual circumstance, is difficult to control and affects how you feel physically. It often occurs along with other anxiety disorders or depression.
    • Panic Disorder involves repeated episodes of sudden feelings of intense anxiety and fear or terror that reach a peak within minutes (panic attacks). You may have feelings of impending doom, shortness of breath, chest pain, or a rapid, fluttering or pounding heart (heart palpitations). These panic attacks may lead to worrying about them happening again or avoiding situations in which they've occurred.
    • Social Anxiety Disorder (social phobia) involves high levels of anxiety, fear and avoidance of social situations due to feelings of embarrassment, self-consciousness and concern about being judged or viewed negatively by others.
    • Specific Phobias are characterized by major anxiety when you're exposed to a specific object or situation and a desire to avoid it. Phobias provoke panic attacks in some people.
    • Substance-induced Anxiety Disorder is characterized by symptoms of intense anxiety or panic that are a direct result of misusing drugs, taking medications, being exposed to a toxic substance or withdrawal from drugs.
    • From https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anxiety/symptoms-causes/syc-20350961

Apathy

  • Lack of joy, excitement, interest in your work, relationships or life.
  • Burnout. Bored.
  • The main symptom of apathy is a lack of motivation to do, complete, or accomplish anything. You may also experience low energy levels.
  • Lack of action
  • Tasks and things pile up. Email inbox, VMs, Procrastination. Lack of fulfillment in biz and life. 
  • Increasing distractions and addictions
    • These soak up your attention for the moment, which can sometimes be healthy in short bursts, to get distance from the problem. but unhealthy in the medium-to-long term as you don't resolve or even engage with your problem(s)
  • Lack of exercise or activity or socialization (mental thought “why bother?”)
  • Physical health issues associated with apathy
    • Headaches, back pain, tummy pain, poor digestion, diarrhea, constipation. 
    • Anemia, eating disorders, addiction hangovers 
    • Depressed immune system
  • A way of becoming numb to protect - yet covers true self

Depression

  • Can be very similar to apathy - lack of interest, everything feels meaningless but with an overlay of negative mental thoughts that make you feel even worse.
  • Cruel internal dialogue (“You are worthless, nobody loves you, you are broken, you are beyond fixing”)
  • A belief that things can not and will not get better 
  • Difference between feeling sad and feeling depressed! 
    • Sadness is a specific reaction to something. It fades with time and action.
    • Depression is an entire long term mood. It is much harder to shake off. 
    • The biggest difference between emotions and emotional disorders is the ongoing mind chatter. It honestly feels like an alien/demon has taken over your mind → helpful to personify that demon to recognize that it is NOT YOU and those voices are NOT TRUE
    • These may be voices from your childhood from parents, teachers, bullys or more recent from friends, coworkers, bosses, customers or spouses. 
    • <woo woo on> 
    • Or you may have an actual negative spirit entity(s) attached to you that is giving you the negative thoughts and energy. An energy healer or shaman can remove these. 
    • <woo woo off> 
  • Risk of self-harm or suicide 
  • Physical health issues associated with depression
    • All the same ones as apathy:

      • Headaches, back pain, tummy pain, poor digestion, diarrhea, constipation. 
      • Anemia, eating disorders, addiction hangovers 
      • Depressed immune system
    • Chronic pain, fibromyalgia, and chronic fatigue
    • Irritable bowel syndrome, multiple chemical sensitivity
    • PTSD, panic attacks
    • Poor diet and exercise makes digestion issues, body aches and pains worse
    • Heart disease, strokes

Suicide

    • Time to talk about the elephant in the room
    • Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US
      • Is 2nd leading cause in 30-year-olds
    • On average, there are 129 suicides per day.
      • Approx 40k per year
      • 1.4M suicide attempts per year (2018)
      • An estimated 9.3 million adults (3.9% of the adult U.S. population) reported having suicidal thoughts in the past year. 
      • Suicide and self-injury cost the US $69B per year (2015)
      • The annual U.S. suicide rate increased by 24% between 1999 and 2014
  • After suicide

    • It is not your fault 
    • Be supportive
    • Support survivors
    • (let’s take a breath!)
  • Rat race rant

    • We are not looking at these incredible mental illness and suicide statistics as being indicative of deep unlying problems with our society’s programming and the rat race. 

Prevention tips

The Basics

    • Quality Sleep
    • Healthy Diet
    • Gut health
    • Reduce Drugs
    • Daily Exercise
    • Time in Nature
    • Sunshine
    • Digital detox
    • Regular Touch

Early Detection

      • Intuition
      • Meditation
      • Journaling
      • Mirroring from others (family, friends, masterminds)

Gratitude practice

Laughter

Play time

Joy audit

Limit social media/news exposure 

Nurture your support network (aka friends)

Cures

  • If bad get professional help (see below) 
  • Reset on your Basics
  • Clear vision and Why for your biz → work meaning
    • It needs to be more than money or being busy
  • Work/life balance
    • You are not your business. Identity. 
  • Energy shifts
    • EFT tapping. EMDR
  • Self-acceptance and forgiveness
    • If you were talking to a child would you be so hard on them as you are with yourself?
  • Self-compassion 
  • Drugs and therapy
  • Routines
  • Ask for help - Support - friends, family, crisis-lines, co-counseling, coach
  • Reframing

Loving Reminders

  • I know we’re all overachievers. But this is a crazy time. Now is not necessarily the time for you to reach your full potential. It is a time to focus on preventing you from hitting rock bottom. Ease some of that pressure. You don’t need to be operating at full capacity right now.
  • YOU ARE NOT YOUR BUSINESS: your work is not a reflection of your worth. If sales went down this month, you are still valuable. If you lost money this month, you are still lovable. If you didn’t sign any new clients this month, you are still a rockstar. Do not tie your worth to your business's success. 
  • In regular times, social media is a highlight reel for activities. Now, it is a highlight reel for emotions. Every single person is experiencing anxiety and grief and fear about this situation. Do not let social media fool you into thinking you are ‘broken’ or ‘weak’ for feeling scared. Remember that social media is meticulously curated and do not compare yourself to what you see there

Resources

Related Michaela podcasts 

Tools

  • Brain.fm focus and sleep music
  • Pzizz focus, nap and sleep app with customizable voice overs and music
  • Headspace meditation app
  • RescueTime time tracker and distracting app controller for PC, Mac, Linux, iPhone and Android. 

Disclaimer and when to get professional help

  • This meetup is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice

    • If you need professional help, please get it

See your doctor or a mental health provider if:

  • You feel like you're worrying too much and it's interfering with your work, relationships or other parts of your life
  • Your fear, worry or anxiety is upsetting to you and difficult to control
  • You feel depressed, have trouble with alcohol or drug use, or have other mental health concerns along with anxiety
  • You think your anxiety could be linked to a physical health problem
  • You have suicidal thoughts or behaviors — if this is the case, seek emergency treatment immediately

Your worries may not go away on their own, and they may get worse over time if you don't seek help. See your doctor or a mental health provider before your anxiety gets worse. It's easier to treat if you get help early.

From https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anxiety/symptoms-causes/syc-20350961

Questions to share with friends

  • Share one thing that inspired you to come to this meetup?

    • What are you hoping to learn/get out of this meetup?
  • How has corona, lockdown or economy changes affected your anxiety?
  • How has it affected your apathy and motivation?
  • How has it affected your depression?
  • What good habits have you started that help?
  • What’s the most exciting thing you are working on in your business right now?
  • Each person will get 2min. To share their name, business, biggest goal they have for this time and their greatest need or challenge they are facing and what support they need.

Interview transcript

Michaela Light 0:01
All right. Welcome back to the intuitive leadership mastery podcast. I'm here with Melanie Gibbs Ginsberg. Hi, Melanie. Hi. And we might be joined by Samantha Alvarez. She is a nurse practitioner working in a hospital in New York and she got some pages so she might have difficulty joining but we will cover for her part. And today we're going to be talking about entrepreneurial anxiety, apathy and depression, which given the corona lockdown the economic depression, and various other excitements and isolations is a big thing right now. So welcome, Melanie. For those who don't know, Melanie, tell us about yourself in a brief whatever. Wow, I'm awesome. You are awesome.

Melanie 0:52
I, let's see, the reason that you should be trusting me to talk about this is that I experienced quite a heavy dose

I will say of depression, not true depression, anxiety, just very unpleasant while I was running my business and had to learn very fast how to swim. So now I'm hoping to teach these lessons. I'm hoping to catch them before the shipwreck, so to speak. But during is also, you know, if I can pull myself out, you can pull yourself out. So wherever you're at right now, know that it will be okay. And you can do it.

Michaela Light 1:27
That's great. And as well as being an author or an intuition coach on business intuition. I also have had episodes of depression and anxiety and OCD and various other things. So we'll talk more about each other's excitements later. And I know Samantha has had episodes of anxiety and she gave a meet up on this and we both all three of us have given various some different meetups in the dynamite circle which is an entrepreneur group around this top these different topics, anxiety, apathy and depression in entrepreneurship. So, very cool. Feel free to put questions in the chat. And let's share the OLED screen because we have some cute slides. But if you're listening on audio Do not worry. We will be saying everything that you need to hear. And Michaela is wondering what happened to the show the screen button. Here it is.

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088 Shredding my ego (and growing intuition) with Komal Kaur

088 Shredding my ego (and growing intuition) with Komal Kaur

January 9, 2020

Komal Kaur talks about “Shredding my ego (and growing intuition)” in this episode of Intuitive Leadership Mastery with host Michaela Light.

"to me, ego basically is that part of myself that, um, I identify with that I give a label to that is, um, but I formed the image of who I am. So you know, my name. For example, I have quite an attachment to my name cause I love my name. Um, you know how I look, the image, right? Um, right. That's thoughts. The emotions that come up in my mind, how I feel, my body, what comes up in my body. All of these, all these aspects of myself which are outside is what I consider my ego, what I identify with, what I'm attached to and what I feel separates me from someone else. You know, what makes me- me and what makes you you, you know? And that is my ego. That's what ego means to me."

Episode Highlights

  • Her FB post 

    • I set an intention for 2020 last week, to remove my attachment to the 'I', my ego self that craves and identifies with labels.
    • I had to shed a lot of ego in 2019, and release so much attachment to who I thought I was. It's such a painful process... I was holding on so strongly to words and ideas that I used to define myself. Because I needed to find my place in the world.
    • But how can I possibly sum the vastness of this existence and experience into a mere few words, words that are limited by the confines of language.
    • And as we come to the close of the year, I find myself with even more being stripped away. Things I hold on to tightly, and which define my self worth by my ability to achieve them.
    • The more I learn, the less I know. I see the lessons and I hear you loud and clear, God.
    • 2020, I welcome you with humility.
  • What is ego to you
    • Label for myself, self image
    • Eg name, thoughts, my face and body
    • Separation
      • Vs we are all one
      • Individual (esp in West) vs Group/Community in East
    • Creates Boundaries 
    • Being right or wrong - judgements
    • toxic
    • Roles and title
  • Business as a group 
    • Ego and competition vs collaboration
    • Age of Piscius vs Age of Aquarius 
    • Patriary 
    • Burnout
  • Remote Team focus and joy
    • Open communication
    • Safe space
    • Pick good fit team members
    • Clear focus for team
    • Support team members be their best self
    • Cafe Gratitude
  • What happen in 2019 that caused you to shred your ego
    • Health issue

      • Tacaled disease vs dg deep
    • Holding onto labels
      • Vegetarian label

        • Under my control
        • Devine
    • Early detection via naturopath
      • Leaky gut → skin rashes, hives, sun allergy 
      • Nurture with nutrition 
    • Self determined vs others judgements
    • Trauma in gut
  • What is health
    • Feel good mental, physically, emotionally and spiritually
    • Holistic
    • Sungazing → mental health - joy, peace
  • I know nothing 
    • Learning mindset
  • Pain of releasing and growing
    • A death of sometime
    • Resistance to change
    • Stoicism and stubborn and surrender
  • Unexpect layoff 
    • Gene Keys

      • Gift level
      • Shadow level
      • Siddhi level
    • Fida Fadel's teachings on Fidafadel.com
      • Business, health, relationships etc are all search toward
    • Another lesson / growth oppo
    • The Power of the Heart
    • Ram Dass - Be Here Now
    • As within so without
  • Effect on intuition 
    • My practices and inner guide
    • Meditation
    • Mantra - Nipna mantra
    • Chi gong
    • Yoga
    • Listen to my body

Mentioned in this episode

Bio

Working remotely as operations manager for Amazon FBA company. Trained a bioscientist in Singapore.  

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087 Intuitive Health (Does It Really Matter?) with Emil Goliath

087 Intuitive Health (Does It Really Matter?) with Emil Goliath

November 17, 2019

Emil Goliath talks about “Intuitive Health (Does It Really Matter?)” in this episode of Intuitive Leadership Mastery with host Michaela Light.

Show notes

Can you be entirely intuitive and succeed with health

    • Vs strict protocols and logic

Health divide in society

    • Obesity and chronic disease sick vs biohacking and longevity protocols

Changing habits

    • pain vs love

Hacks

    • Oura ring 
    • Pavlock

70% of disease comes from lifestyle

Intuitive health

    • Driving car metaphor

Your health is your business and gives you the freedom and energy to create and enjoy your business

Hustling vs working smart

    • Hustle porn

Life game components

    • Wealth
    • Health
    • Happiness
    • Spiritual meaning of your work
    • Travel and enjoying life

Lifepath intuitive path from limiting rigid brainwashed job to limitless total adventure entrepreneur

IBM Watson vs Intuitive medicine 

    • Offshoring of radiography
    • Remote surgery 
    • Robotic surgery 
    • Video consultations

Phycho social aspects of medicine 

Self-responsibility vs victim mentality of health

Exodus of doctors

Health measurements

    • Happiness tracking 
    • Body fat
    • Blood markers

The effects of blame, guilt and shame on your health

    • Bad
    • Secondary effects on sleep, eating etc
    • Then are schools or businesses healthily?
    • Consumer society
    • Our political system

Not following news

Why are you proud to use your business intuition?

WWIT to make business intuition more openly used this year?

Mentioned in this episode

Bio

I originally trained as a doctor, graduating in 2011 but throughout my time in university, I also held an interest in fitness and nutrition.

This manifested as a number of gym qualifications, a sports science degree and a few years of experience working in a gym during my medical degree and I participated in a wide range of sport as well including rugby, strongman, MMA, and bodybuilding. 

This all took a back seat when I started to work as a doctor but within a few years, I realized that we were working the wrong way round. I didn’t want to catch people after lifestyle diseases had developed. I wanted to prevent these horrific illnesses from developing in the first place, and this could be achieved through nutrition and exercise.

So I left full-time medicine in 2015 to pursue business ventures and to elicit a greater change than I could as a single doctor.

This journey has taken me all over the world and through multiple learning experiences including a gym concept in central London that didn’t take off and a fitness apparel brand that failed after a few years.

It’s certainly not all been negative however and I’ve authored a book, appeared in multiple publications including Men’s Health, the Guardian and Telegraph and Men’s Fitness, I’ve set up a coaching company, lived in South East Asia for 7 months and launched a supplement brand in the States.

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Increase Sales (Beyond Your Inner Limits) with Martijn Reintjes

Increase Sales (Beyond Your Inner Limits) with Martijn Reintjes

January 8, 2018

Welcome back to our Case Study Series. In this episode, I am talking with Martijn Reintjes about how to "Increase Sales (Beyond Your Inner Limits)".

Here are the episode highlights:

  • Set goal for 10 new clients this quarter for his business TeamCroCo

    • Didn’t feel good saying it as an affirmation
    • I realized that I have is a subconscious block
    • Previous sales was 2 in a quarter, max 4
    • Anxious, queasy in stomach
    • Terrifying, alien to me, heavy
    • I don’t believe I can do it in volume
      • But I know I can make 1 sales
    • $15-20k each sale
    • 0-10 scale how much believe goal 0
    • Youngest Age
      • 14
  • Salesperson Impostor syndrome
    • Sales is new to me and learning
    • Consider myself a builder
    • Talking with people I don’t know
    • Reframe as a challenge
      • New goal
      • New target market
    • How feel with goal of 1 sale for the quarter to new market? Same
    • How feel 1 sale to old market? OK
    • 10 sales to old market?
    • What is different?
      • Raised prices

        • Before pay as you go, now double the price to a per project with more features, charging for onboarding
      • Added in new features we haven’t done before (i know we can do)
      • Pay as you go - feel ok
      • Per project at same price - ok
      • With new features - no
        • Onboarding new elements
      • No new features at double price - ok
    • WWIT to feel comfortable delivering them?
      • Do it once
      • WWIT to do it once next week?
        • Find some people to do it with
        • A training session for the team - internal project. Document the process. 2-3 hours. Some prep over weekend.
        • Commit to doing this by next Friday
    • Fear has reduced from big blob to small marble size
    • What is left - anxious that team get the results I want.
      • Write out the exact results I want - an SOP
      • What is the team’s Why?
      • WWIT for this training to be more playful and experimental rather than the energy of it must be done right?
    • Queasy gone
    • Reframe nervous to excited for new adventures
  • Increasing my sales beyond what I have done before
  • Sales is dirty
  • Under some pressure to deliver
  • Why want this goal
    • Big goal for sales to grow my company to make it stable and make it the awesome company I know it can be
    • Community of 12 staff

*WWIT= What Would It Take

Book Creation and Launching Case Study, with Ying Han Cheng

Book Creation and Launching Case Study, with Ying Han Cheng

June 12, 2017

Welcome back to our Case Study Series. In this episode, I am talking with Ying Han Cheng. She talks about her Book Launch Process. This is a follow-up on her Case Study we did a few months ago before she's written a book. We wanted to see how the book did! It is a bestseller, by the way...  ;)

Episode highlights

  • Book launch process
  • Book creation process
    • Hero’s journey
    • Emotional journey
    • Polarizing your audience to create dedicated fans
  • Scared to commit to Deadline, relationship
    • Focus
    • Fears will come up and that is ok
  • Shift in her Relationship with her fears
    • More aware of them
    • Take them less seriously
    • More comfortable being big in the world and shining her light
    • They no long cause writer's block in her
    • Those fears
      • Fear no one will read it, no one will buy it
      • Fear only my friends will buy it but it won’t take off
      • So much work to do for the launch, what if I can’t keep up with the work?
      • When people volunteer to help instead of me being happy I am afraid that I will fail them not finish the book
      • I aim small instead of big, which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy
      • Fear of being big and shining my light
      • I am afraid to revealing my true self and my inner life – fear people won’t like the real me, make fun of me, will judge me as weird
  • Perfectionism
    • Too perfect inhibits creating
    • My deadline is stronger than my perfectionism
    • Your spiritual growth by actually releasing is as important as the product you create
    • Like birthing a baby - a book has its own life
    • Regrets case aging
  • My identity as myself vs best-selling author vs old identity
    • From the social chameleon to one voice and identity between my social and work circles
  • Emptiness after launch
    • Felt lost and behind her new identity’s potential for new creation
    • Then more ideas and creativity
  • How the Intuition tools helped her during the process
    • WWIT
    • TLC
    • When we have fast momentum and overwhelm TLC vs putting on the brake
    • 2-chairs with audience avatars

Tools used from the book

  • WWIT
  • TLC
  • 2-chairs with audience avatars

Bio

 

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Breakthrough on Billing Blockages Case Study, with Kim

Breakthrough on Billing Blockages Case Study, with Kim

June 1, 2017

Welcome back to our Case Study Series. In this episode, I am talking with Kim. Her main concern is Billing Blockages. She needs to send invoices to the clients, but she doesn't. She procrastinates, delays for days, months, even years. And, she's tired of it.

 

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Episode highlights

  • Procrastinate on sending invoices
  • If I have money then I wait because I think it would be there for a rainy day
  • When I had monthly clients I did bill every
  • For my clients, I create their invoices on time
  • I have two new clients that I will be doing invoicing
  • Once I send an invoice I usually get paid fast
  • My extra money, my spend on myself money, my slush fund
  • Free money to build up my bank account doesn’t seem to matter so much to me
  • Her mom never has enough money, money was always an issue, could never get nice things or go on vacations
  • I am good at clearing physical clutter but I get stuck on mental clutter
  • I shouldn’t need help or reminders. Snap out of it and get it done.
  • High blood pressure

Think about creating these old billings and what do you notice in your body

  • Relief
  • Hot and bit tense, like a hot flush
  • Lack of clarity on tasks I did
  • Heavy junk
  • Overwhelm, frustrated that I know how to do but I never do it
  • Head is very distracted
  • Guilty that I can’t seem to do this myself
  • Fear that my security blanket is not secure and might slip off
  • 4 y.o. My mom and dad - dad didn’t come to pick her up just after her parents separated
  • What percentage is left now? 17%
  • WWIT for it to be 0%? 1 hour of uninterrupted time

Solutions

  • WWIT to have an hour of uninterrupted time for myself?

    • Schedule this instead of my massage for Sunday
    • Just breath through it
  • How many ancestors have had the same pattern? 71
  • How many past lives with the same pattern? 14
  • How many other dimensions
  • What percentage is left now? 3%
  • WWIT to get to 2%?
    • Take some deep breath
    • How many need to take? 2
  • Now at 1%
  • WWIT to get to 0%?
    • Move my body
  • Now what do you notice thinking about creating these old invoices?
    • Grounded, happy, moving forward
  • Cut cords with all family members

    • Cord restricting me, should do things the family way
    • How many cords did you have? 4
    • Waist control
    • 2 Wrists pulling me in different directions - me as a mom and me an individual
    • Right Ear - I must always be on guard to hear if some wrong

Tools from the book

Business Intuition and Moving Easily During Business Transitions and Pivots

Business Intuition and Moving Easily During Business Transitions and Pivots

May 31, 2017

Justine Pattantyus talks about "Business Intuition and Moving Easily During Business Transitions and Pivots" in this episode of the Intuitive Leadership Mastery Podcast, with host Michael Light. Justine is the owner and CEO of Spark Life International LLC. He is an expert in process and productivity and excels at bridging the gap between vision and the next steps needed to bring it to life while creating momentum and consistency in the creative process. She specializes in working with creative, world-changing business owners who run a service-based business. For the past twelve years, Justine worked with non-profits, solo-preneurs, startups that went public and 8-figure businesses alike to equip individuals and teams with better functioning systems and workflow to improve productivity.

Here are some of the topics discussed in the podcast:

  • Why business seasons, intuition and biz birthing skills are critical now
  • Lessons from assisting at birth of 30 new businesses from start-ups to 8-figure businesses
  • How to move easily during business transitions and pivots
  • What season am I in and what season is my business in. And why this is crucial for success
  • How to successfully navigate the unknown in your business with peace and calm

Resources:

Learn more about Justine Pattantyus at:

Why Intuition in Business is so Important

Why Intuition in Business is so Important

May 24, 2017

Raven Dana talks about "Why Intuition in Business is so Important" in this episode of the Intuitive Leadership Mastery Podcast, with host Michael Light. Raven Dana is a Stress Wizard. She is a coach, Radical Honesty Trainer, and workshop developer. She helps people become truer, happier, more satisfied versions of themselves. Raven is dedicated to exploring our mysterious inner worlds and the magnificent powers the human mind. She coaches in person and by phone & facilitates online classes as well as on-site workshops. Dana is also the author of The Book of How.

Some of the topics discussed in the podcast are:

  • How does intuition play an important role in business
  • Examples of intuition saving a million dollar investors day
  • How you can improve your biz intuition
  • How to really listen to the signal to from your deep self
  • Why Sensing and Respond is better than the traditional Think and React
  • What handwriting analysis can tell you about job candidates and yourself

Resources:

Learn more about Raven Dana at:

Kim billing blockage case study tw wave improved.mp3

Kim billing blockage case study tw wave improved.mp3

May 18, 2017

Welcome back to our Case Study Series. In this episode, I am talking with Kim. Her main concern is Billing Blockages. She needs to send invoices to the clients, but she doesn't. She procrastinates, delays for days, months, even years. And, she's tired of it.

Episode highlights

  • Procrastinate on sending invoices
  • If I have money then I wait because I think it would be there for a rainy day
  • When I had monthly clients I did bill every
  • For my clients, I create their invoices on time
  • I have two new clients that I will be doing invoicing
  • Once I send an invoice I usually get paid fast
  • My extra money, my spend on myself money, my slush fund
  • Free money to build up my bank account doesn’t seem to matter so much to me
  • Her mom never has enough money, money was always an issue, could never get nice things or go on vacations
  • I am good at clearing physical clutter but I get stuck on mental clutter
  • I shouldn’t need help or reminders. Snap out of it and get it done.
  • High blood pressure

Think about creating these old billings and what do you notice in your body

  • Relief
  • Hot and bit tense, like a hot flush
  • Lack of clarity on tasks I did
  • Heavy junk
  • Overwhelm, frustrated that I know how to do but I never do it
  • Head is very distracted
  • Guilty that I can’t seem to do this myself
  • Fear that my security blanket is not secure and might slip off
  • 4 y.o. My mom and dad - dad didn’t come to pick her up just after her parents separated
  • What percentage is left now? 17%
  • WWIT for it to be 0%? 1 hour of uninterrupted time

Solutions

  • WWIT to have an hour of uninterrupted time for myself?
    • Schedule this instead of my massage for Sunday
    • Just breath through it
  • How many ancestors have had the same pattern? 71
  • How many past lives with the same pattern? 14
  • How many other dimensions
  • What percentage is left now? 3%
  • WWIT to get to 2%?
    • Take some deep breath
    • How many need to take? 2
  • Now at 1%
  • WWIT to get to 0%?
    • Move my body
  • Now what do you notice thinking about creating these old invoices?
    • Grounded, happy, moving forward
  • Cut cords with all family members
    • Cord restricting me, should do things the family way
    • How many cords did you have? 4
    • Waist control
    • 2 Wrists pulling me in different directions - me as a mom and me an individual
    • Right Ear - I must always be on guard to hear if some wrong

Tools from the book

 

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